Sometimes, we may feel as though we cannot trust anyone- but ourselves. However, we cannot even trust ourselves as much as we can trust God. After all, our hearts can deceive us. Sometimes, we believe what we want to believe- only because it is easier to believe a lie than it is to believe a painful truth. We often believe what we think needs to be true, depending on how we feel, despite what we know to be true. How many of us have ignored the obvious unfaithfulness of a friend, because we could not bear the thought of losing the friendship? In those cases, we ignore the truth to our own detriment; and thus prove that we cannot trust ourselves as much as we can trust God.
Furthermore, we cannot trust ourselves, as much as we can trust God because we are fallible. This means that we can make mistakes; that we are subject to error. Sometimes we make mistakes out of blind or willful ignorance. At other times, we make an error in judgment because we, simply, do not know what is best; for, as humans we are limited in our knowledge. We frequently mistake the motives or meanings of the words and actions of other people. And, often, our past situations and relationships obscure our ability to perceive our present realities (our relationships, situations, and circumstances) accurately. This is one reason that the Bible warns us that we cannot even trust our own hearts. As God’s word says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9). Instead, we should trust God to give us the wisdom that we need for all of the relationships, situations, and circumstances of our lives. We can trust God in all of these things because, unlike us, God is infallible (that is, God is incapable of making mistakes or being wrong).
For example, we can trust God in our relationships because God knows the hearts of all men. The Bible says, “…no creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account” (Hebrews 4:12). Even the smartest woman in the world can never know the hearts of others. Quite a few women have deceived themselves into believing that they know the hearts and minds of their husbands, children, and friends. Sometimes, I have heard women say things like, “I know what you were thinking!” or, “I know why you said that!” or “He would not admit it, but I knew that he really felt…” However, nobody truly knows what other people are thinking- only God knows what other people are thinking. We do not know the hearts, the motives, or the minds of others. (If we were truthful with ourselves, we might even admit that half the time we do not even know our own hearts, motives, and minds.) However, God does know the hearts, the motives, and the minds of all people. Therefore, we can trust God to lead us in all of our relationships.