10 Ways that Modesty Fulfills the Law of Love
Jesus said, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets” (Matthew 22:37-39). And, the Apostle James wrote, “If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing well” (James 2:8). This week we have been focusing on the issue of immodesty. It, therefore, seems only fitting to me to end the week focused on how being modest fulfills the royal law of love. But, before we can do that we need to know the definition of modesty. According to the Merriam Webster’s Online Dictionary, the definition of modesty is the quality of not being too proud or confident about yourself or your abilities: the quality of behaving and especially dressing in ways that do not attract sexual attention.With that in mind, here are 10 ways that practicing modesty fulfills the Royal Law of Love.
Also, I have listed supporting Scriptures after each statement. I have done this so that you can check them against the truth of God’s Word. If you feel as though I have gone beyond what is written please feel free to share that with me through the “What readers say about Boasting In Weakness” section of this blog.
1. It is loving towards God when we believe and obey His Word, in which He has clearly called us to practice humbleness of mind and humility’s subsequent fruit of modesty (Heb. 11:6; 2 Tim. 3:16-17; Phil. 2:1-5).
2. It is loving towards our sisters in Christ to practice modesty because it is a way that we communicate to them that we are their allies in life, not their rivals in life (Philippians 2:3; Colossians 3:12; See also the trial that living with a “rival” was for Hannah 1 Samuel 1: 1-11).
3. It is loving towards your brothers in Christ to practice modesty because it is a way that we aid them in their battle for holiness of heart and purity of thought life (1 Timothy 6:11; Hebrews 12:14; Romans 14:13).
4. It is loving towards your little sisters (daughters and other young girls) in Christ to practice modesty because it sets a Christ-like example for them to follow (Titus 2:3-6).
5. It is loving towards our little brothers (sons and other young boys) in Christ to practice modesty because it aids them in their godly pursuit to “…flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart” (2 Timothy 2:22).
6. It is loving towards our husbands to practice modesty because it is one way that we keep our vows of faithfulness to them; honoring them with exclusive viewing rights to our bodies by not wearing clothes in public that are, by design, meant to communicate a subtle invitation to bed. We should always remember that our vows to our husbands were oaths and promises that we made before God (Ecclesiastes 5:4-6).
7. It is loving towards our parents (where this applies) to practice modesty because it is one way that we honor them and show them respect (Proverbs 20:11; Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:1-2).
8. It is loving towards the lost world (the unregenerate) to practice modesty because it is one way that we use our outward behavior to substantiate the truth of the Word of God (Titus 2:5, 10).
9. It is loving towards ourselves to practice modesty because it is one way we can prepare our souls for a pleasant experience on judgment day when we give an account to God for all that we have done in our bodies, and said with our lips (Romans 2: 6-11; Hebrews 4:13; Revelation 20:11-15).
10. Most importantly, modesty is in and of itself an expression of love for the glory of God’s redeeming grace, which was shown to us in the cross of Christ:
a. Modesty of thought (i.e., a humble opinion of ourselves) results from a right understanding of how ugly the pride of our hearts really is that Christ had to endure the horrors of Roman crucifixion to atone for it (Matthew 27:32-56; 1 Corinthians 15:3-5).
b. Modesty in our behavior (i.e., a humble demeanor towards our family in Christ) results from understanding how incomprehensibly valuable the bride of Christ is to Him (1 Peter 1:17-21; 1 Timothy 3:15; Revelation 21:9-27).
c. Modesty in our dress (i.e., the humble beauty of an appropriate level of adornment) is the ‘wrapping paper’ of our souls. It is the first thing people see when they meet us; the last word on what we really think is valuable in our appearance, and we can use our clothing as a means to reveal our love for the glory of God’s redeeming grace if we want to use our clothes in this manner. Finally, we can use our clothing as a tool which draws the eyes of men to look away from our temporal, quickly fading physical beauty, and towards the eternal Christ-exalting meek and humble behavior of women who have been forever changed by God’s glorious grace as expressed in the cross of Christ (Proverbs 31:30; 1Corinthians 1:18; Ephesians 4:17-24; Titus 3:4-8). Therefore, in the words of Paul, “Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31).